如何博得心上人的欢心

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不知如何引起心上人的注意？纠结无法博得Ta的欢心？我来向你们传授如何博取心上人的欢心，如何吸引Ta的目光，如何让Ta在你的陪伴下渡过欢乐的时光。

不知如何引起心上人的注意？纠结无法博得Ta的欢心？

我来向你们传授如何博取心上人的欢心，如何吸引Ta的目光，如何让Ta在你的陪伴下渡过欢乐的时光。

首先，丢掉一切排斥畏怯的执念，打消所有消极情绪。

那些让你觉得：“我无法得到Ta；我不可能让Ta喜欢上我；Ta不会愿意和我聊天；Ta不会愿意呆在我身边。”的东东，把它们通通抛诸脑后。每个骚年，每个菇凉都心怀顾虑，觉得自己太大只，太袖珍，太丰满，太骨感，太钝感，太这个太那个。每个人都“太”点什麽。而你若想赢得Ta的关注，就得把这些对自己的不满都搁在一边。

回想你考试爆发的时候。想想自己那个旷世骇俗的进球。想想自己在派对上风光无限的时候。

在脑中营造积极的情绪，然后展开攻势。

关键：肢体语言

交谈之中，说话的方式以及你的形体姿态比说话内容要重要得多。舒展你的双肩。保持自然大方的姿态，双手自然张开，并和躯干保持合理距离。

站有站相坐有坐相。很多人在和心上人交谈时犯了大忌，他们将双臂抱于胸前。这样显得非常拘束，他们目光飘离，盯着地板，而不是与对方直接交谈。

自信，坦率，畅怀而谈，不要言辞含糊，确保对方听得清楚你在说什么。

对于男孩儿女孩儿来说，世上最迷人的莫过于目光的交流。

交谈中保持与对方的眼神交流。也许你真的很难做到与某人保持目光交流，因为这实在太难了。如果你是真心喜欢Ta，如果Ta是你生命中的挚爱，那做到脸不红，目光不涣散，不盯着底板确实挺难的。练习和你不喜欢的人进行眼神的交流。

练习和你不喜欢的人进行眼神的交流。这听上去可能怪诡异的。爲什麽非要找个不喜欢的人盯着看呢？（因为）如果你能非常自信地和不喜欢的人进行眼神交流，那和自信地心上人谈话就简单多了。

和从未讲过话的人交谈，和陌生人讲话，和异性聊天，多多益善。

想想看。那些不这么做的人，（就像）一个足球运动员，一个前锋，或是橄榄球运动员，他在周末没能收获进球，是因为他只不过接到球然后射出去了而已。而那些得分的人，他从早到晚练习，日复一日。

你要联系，你要锻炼你拍拖的肌肉以及交流技巧。

拍拖这事儿可是一门科学。一点小小的肢体接触会带来意想不到的化学反应。

首先，保持甜美的笑容。如果你微笑常在，别人就会觉得和你在一起挺开心的，他们会享受这种相处。

拍拖和猥琐郁郁寡欢的面相可不兼容。杀气太重的人也拍不了拖。笑一个，想想你的双唇该怎么运动，它们可是无比带感的肌肉。

交谈时动起你的嘴唇来，把话双清楚。你没必要把嘴撅到能挂上油瓶，也没必要显得肉欲十足。只要略显性感就好了。

放松你的面部，运用好你的表情。

一个很关键的词叫做摸摸。

当你和某人开始了谈话，当你对Ta了解越来越多，当你们之间正其乐融融，也许可以轻触Ta的胳膊。

如果你已经到了“瞧，我真的很想有进一步的发展，说不定我想要一个吻”的阶段，那就轻触Ta胳膊的外侧。如果你是坐着的，那就可以轻触Ta的手腕。

轻抚是摸摸之母，因为摸摸就是下一步的事儿了。

人们很头疼一件事，他们在和心上人交谈时总在想：“额滴神啊，我无语词穷怎么办。”唔，在今天，每个人都有一坨社交网的咨询。每个人都把个人信息po满了因特网。

如果你快快瞥一眼这些讯息，然后茅塞顿开：“额滴神啊，原来Ta喜欢这个乐队诶~我也是哦~”，或是“额滴神啊，Ta在推特上说着这话~”或者Ta和哪些人出去过，或者我们之有“共同好友”，那你在交谈时就不会变成闷油瓶。

人们把这些讯息po在网上就是想要有人来了解他们。人们可想让别人来发掘自己的讯息了。

别把别人的七七八八都列出来，只要找几件事就好了，这些可能就是很好地的话梗，那你在和Ta聊天时，就可以爆出很多亮点了。

这就是怎么博取心上人欢心。祝你开心，享受和人类的拍拖吧~

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Enlarge Not sure how to get your crush's attention? Afraid that you're not flirting the right way? This VideoJug film will give you the confidence you need to talk to anyone and take your relationship with your crush to the next level.

I'm going to be teaching you how to flirt with your crush, how to get their attention, and how to make them have fun in your company. First of all, throw away all sense of rejection. Throw away all negativity.

Throw away every single thing that makes you think, "I can't get this person. I can't get this person to like me. This person won't want to talk to me.

This person won't want to be around me." We all think like that. Every guy, every girl, has hang-ups.

They're too big, they're too small, they're too fat, they're too thin, they're too stupid, they're too something. Everybody's too something. Your battle to get this person's attention is going to need you to dump all of those things that you don't like about yourself.

Think of a time when you aced a test. Think of a time when you scored an amazing goal. Think about a time when you were having really good fun at a party.

Get a positive thought in your head and then go get them. Crucial thing: body language. It's not so much what you say, it's how you say it, and how you hold yourself when you talk to them.

Keep your shoulders back. Keep a good open posture. By that, I mean, keep your hands open, away from yourself.

Make gestures. The big thing that people get wrong when they're talking to someone that they fancy is they fold their arms. They get defensive, they look away, they look down, they don't talk to that person.

Be confident, be direct. Talk openly and clearly, and make sure this person hears what you're saying. The sexiest thing in the world, for a boy or girl, is eye contact.

Keep eye contact with them when you talk to them. If you're having trouble keeping eye contact with somebody, because it's really hard if you really fancy someone, if it's just the love of your life, it's really hard not to blush, it's hard not to look away, it's hard not to kind of talk to the floor. Practice keeping eye contact with people you don't fancy.

Practice keeping eye contact with people you don't fancy. This might sound really peculiar. Why would you want to talk to people you don't fancy? If you can talk to people you don't fancy really confidently, it's easier to talk to someone that you do fancy and have great confidence.

Talk to people you've never spoken to before. Talk to complete strangers. Talk to the opposite sex as much as you possibly can.

Think about it. Somebody who doesn't, a footballer or a striker, or a rugby player, doesn't score goals on the weekend just because he turned up with a ball and his kit. He scores because he practices all day, every day.

You're going to practice, you're going to practice your flirting muscles and your conversational skills. When it comes to flirting, flirting is a science. The little touches matter an awful lot.

First of all, have a big smile. If you're smiling, people will think you're fun to be around. They'll enjoy your company.

The mean and moody look doesn't work with flirting. Aggro guys don't flirt. Have a big smile, think about what you do with your lips, the lips are incredibly sensual muscles.

Use your lips a lot when you talk, enunciate words clearly. You don't have to effect a really strange pout, or don't have to be really sexy. Just be a bit sensual.

Relax your face, have fun with your expressions. A big thing is contact. Once you've initiated a conversation with someone, once you're really getting to know someone, once you've got lots of fun things going on, maybe touch their arm.

If you're in a position where you think, "Look, I'd really like to take things further, maybe I'm going to kiss this person", just a light touch on the outside of their arm. If you're sitting down, maybe a light touch on their wrist. Touches initiate contact, because contact is how you're going to take this relationship further.

The one big thing that people worry about when they're talking to someone that they fancy is they think, "Oh my God, I've got nothing to say".